Digesting the facts Digesting the fact that your pet is gone takes time, and beyond the grief, you may have many regrets. You have your own career and life, you didn’t get to spend more time with it, you’ll wish you could have treated it better in the first place; or, you speculate, if another medical decision had been made, would it have gone later and would it have been less painful? You can’t turn back the clock, but you try to hold on to something in this way. The truth is, you’ve done well enough. You will think so only because it is too much to let go. It is advisable to tell the people around you about its departure. The nearby pet store, the pet hospital you often visit, the weibo group for sunbathing pets, the pet crematorium, you will find that the little ones understand the sadness of losing it and will comfort to you. Chatting with them can make the stage of digesting the truth not so tough. Saying goodbye to it its departure leaves a huge hole in your heart, as if everything about it, all together, has disappeared. All the paraphernalia and scenes in and out of the house are also reminding you about its passing. So, you need to say goodbye to it officially. It can be a posthumous farewell at the time of cremation or burial, it can be speaking to its picture, or writing a letter to it. You need such a ritual to give yourself permission to let go. Then, you can sort through its things, leaving a few mementos and packing the rest away or giving it away. Organizing memories memories are beneficial, memories help you remember the days you were together, and the meaning of its life. Its form is obliterated, but the memories of it remain in your heart. Death does not take everything away, it is a new phase, a new way of being alive. Set aside a period of time when you are not disturbed: either to reflect quietly alone; or to talk with friends who have similar experiences; or even to greet everyone and hold a small informal memorial service. Tell everyone about the sadness and discomfort, about the closeness and joy it once brought; ▷ How did it react to its new surroundings when you first brought it home? ▷ How did it behave once it became familiar? ▷ Is it cuddly or high strung? ▷ How does it welcome you home? ▷ How does it express its dissatisfaction? ▷ How does it ask for food? ▷ Does it crave your food? ▷ Where does it sleep and what position does it sleep in? ▷ How does it interact with the family, and with outsiders? ▷ Who is its favorite family member and who is its favorite animal companion? ▷ How has your life changed during the years you had it with you? ▷ What did it look like when you first met it, and what did you look like? ▷ After it left, did your wish come true? ▷ What kind of years did it witness to you? Use this series of questions to organize your memories with it and help you perceive that death is not the end of everything. Find out the meaning of its life In the darkness, your lives, are tightly connected. You are a witness to its life, and it must be a witness to some part of your life as well. Such a friend and family member is worth taking the time to say goodbye. It is its company that makes your life and its life more meaningful each it has played an important role in someone’s life. A friend was depressed and people chipped in to buy a Labrador to give to him. A year later, the dying depressed patient, as a living model dog father. A child was frustrated, after eating all the cookies in the collection, plans to jump. A big orange cat suddenly came over and licked his whole face up and down. He was licked back to life and did not want to die. More people are exhausted from life, and only when they return home and pick up their beloved pets, they can feel the softness and warmth of life. Do you believe that “every life has its own specific mission”? Perhaps, it must also carry some kind of mission. For example, so that you in that period of life is not easy, not alone, not sink. For example, to warm your heart in a few years. You can find out the meaning of life by experiencing what it brings to you.
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