Regularity VS spontaneity
According to zoologist Harald Schliemann of the University of Hannover, Germany.
The ancestors of both dogs and cats were early carnivores that lived about 6,500 years ago, but then gradually began to evolve along two separate tracks: feline and canine. At that time, dogs and cats were not very different in size, with long bodies, short limbs, and 44 strong teeth in the upper jaw, and both were sophisticated killers that specialized in hunting small herbivores. Since then, dogs have evolved faster , as early as 15,000 years ago, dogs have become human companions, while the cat was only about 9,000 years ago out of the wild world.
It is probably for this reason that cats are more wild, while dogs are more in sync with humans in terms of rhythm of life because of their longer history with them.
The dog that urges you to live a regular life
We often see sleepy-eyed owners walking their dogs in the neighborhood early in the morning. Twice a day, without fail, because most dogs, like humans, work at sunrise and rest at sunset. As you can imagine, with the dog’s urging, the owner’s life is mostly regular and healthy as well.
PDP (ProfessionalDynamiticProgram) is a tool for behavioral style testing, “behavioral style” refers to a person’s natural best style of doing things, different people’s behavioral style can be represented by five animals.
Tiger, peacock, koala, owl and chameleon. Among them, the owl personality, usually precision-oriented, planning, heavy commitment, have a beginning and an end, the pursuit of perfection, and pay great attention to the rules, analyze things when the logic is clear and rigorous.
If the dog to do this test, I am afraid that the owl personality will be the majority. Dog owners are also the majority of such “behavior style” to get along well with the dog.
Cats that you have to tolerate
Although cats and humans have been living together for nearly 10,000 years, but they are still my own way, adhering to the nature of nocturnal animals.
Therefore, the rhythm of life between cats and humans has a kind of “American time difference”, when you sleep, the cat’s night life is just beginning. They are likely to run and jump in the living room while you sleep, or just come to scratch the door to “harass” you.
This is the time to test the patience and tolerance of the “pooper scooper”. If you can stand the test and tolerate the differences between your master’s lifestyle and yours, then this harmonious coexistence of intimacy after the bonding process also provides another way of thinking about human interaction – respecting and accepting the differences between others and you, and seeking harmony and win-win.
I believe that most of you who subscribe to the “cat philosophy” have the valuable quality of “seeking common ground while reserving differences” and are more humble and tolerant in life, so as not to The most important thing is that you will not have to expel others from your social circle because they do not agree with you, or have different thinking or behavior patterns.
Pleasing VS Consistent
We say that there are three elements of interpersonal interaction – self, other, and situation. Based on this, Virginia Satya, the founder of family therapy, proposed five models of interpersonal communication
The dog whose master is everything
Dogs see their master as the center of their world, their master’s will is their will, their master’s thoughts are their thoughts, and the dog’s world and their master’s world seem to be integrated and borderless. Dogs are happy to suppress their feelings to cater to their masters.
In getting along with their owners, dogs are more likely to use pleasing modes of communication. Just unlike humans, for domesticated dogs, being able to make their owners happy is more important than anything else, and it makes them feel valued.
We venture to guess that dog owners prefer to play a central role in their social circle and care more about being valued for their inner feelings. Therefore the dog’s pleasing and deep love is more likely to win the owner’s heart.
Cats whose hearts and expressions match
Cats get along with humans in a way that is closer to a consistent mode of communication.
Cats actually have a high emotional intelligence and can understand the feelings of the “pooper scooper”, but do not deliberately please, because they care more about their own feelings. It can be said that what they think is written on their faces. If the mood is bad, or reluctant, cats will never respond to the owner.
People are divided into groups, and people with consistent communication patterns are usually more likely to get along with people with consistent communication patterns, so it is safe to assume that the owners of cats are mostly people who are more consistent in their hearts and expressions. They are loyal to themselves and can also take into account the feelings of others.
Loyalty VS Independence
The biggest difference between the personalities of dogs and cats in the eyes of many people is that one represents loyalty and the other symbolizes independence.
The dog that represents loyalty
The movie “The Story of the Faithful Dog” has brought countless people to tears. After his master Professor Ueno passed away from a cerebral hemorrhage, the loyal dog Hachi still went to the station every afternoon to wait for the professor’s return, and then ended his life in a heavy snowfall.
This film illustrates the loyalty of dogs to humans to the fullest. Whether the owner is poor or rich, healthy or sick, the dog will follow faithfully.
Heartbreaking loyal dog
In the eyes of the dog, the master is his light, is the center of the world, all the activities of the dog revolve around the needs of the master, the dog and the master, it is as if a lifelong contract. The relationship developed between the owner and the dog is also a typical intimate relationship.
What is an intimate relationship
According to psychologist Kelly, a relationship is one in which two individuals can influence each other and depend on each other. When two individuals are extremely dependent on each other, we call this relationship intimate.
The characteristics of an intimate relationship are
1. There is frequent interaction for a long time
2. the relationship contains many different types of activities or events, and the two individuals share many activities and interests
3, the two individuals have great influence on each other
The relationship between the owner and the dog fully satisfies the above points. And the object of intimacy has a very rich connotation. Intimacy helps us to relieve anxiety, eliminate feelings of loneliness and disconnection, while achieving spiritual repair and growth.
Having an intimate relationship with a dog can be said to create a healing possibility for us. The quality of liking a dog’s loyalty can also be interpreted as liking to be given unconditional attention and acceptance.
Dog owners, most likely, have a stronger need to build intimacy and self-healing than cat owners, and dogs have always lived up to their mission.
The Cat as a Symbol of Independence
Since ancient times, cats have realized that they are pleasing to humans and thus mix with humans who stand at the top of the food chain, which would also greatly reduce their own survival stress.
Humans provide safe shelter for cats and feed them with surplus food. However, cats do not submit to humans because of this.
Cats maintain a discrete relationship with their owners, responding to their passion with indifference and only occasionally showing a gentle and pleasing side, but this character does not “dissuade” humans.
“Although “pooper scoopers” always complain that their cats are not close enough to them, they still give their affection to them, precisely because they recognize the independence and autonomy of their cats. In the opinion of most “pooper scoopers”, a relationship with an animal does not mean bondage and control, but more about mutual respect.
